It’s been said that as we age our horizons narrow. That we have pathways etched in our brains that can be difficult to change.
I recently discovered one, after addressing some negative beliefs I apparently held. A manky, nasty looking insidious belief that’d been hanging around since high school… And No, I’m not telling you what it was. Anyway -
I was given this questionaire which I found insightful, keeping me clear on the process and the desired outcome. See what you think…
Pick an aspect of your life that you would like to change.
- What would it look like if it was going really well?
- What higher order life principles or values would that change be in support of?
- Why is this change important to you? (You might consider here both what you want your life to be about and also what it has cost you to live inconsistently with these values in terms of relationships, health, resources, distress etc).
- What, specifically, might you DO in the short term to move in the direction of living more closely in alignment with your values?
- In order to do what you value, what opposing (ie. potential barriers) thoughts, images, feelings, urges, memories and sensations are you willing to make room for/accept/be curious about?
Mmm. Interesting eh?
3 Comments
sparrowlite said
That last one is a dewzey! Thoughts, images, feelings, urges, memories and sensations?
It seems some of our beliefs can be so ingrained it seems almost impossible to climb in behind them. The mind chatter, the self talk. Someone said it to us before we learned to say it to ourselves. But I can’t keep blaming my oldies forever.
Probing questions - they were good - ta
Jos said
When Rebekah says, I’m a great believer in ‘whatever you focus on expands’ she is soooo right. After submitting my sad looking resume to potential employers (and always getting knocked back) I knew that I had to do something serious about my resume and/or me). So whilst I was sending out positive vibes to potential employers Rebekah was busy re-vamping my resume. And what do you know? I have picked up my first agency work in months and months and an ex-colleague has suddenly got in touch with another potential job..
They say, ‘if you do what you always do, you will get what you always got.’ How very true.
bek said
Thanks for that, Jocelyn. Being able to pick and choose between positions is exactly what you deserve. Well done you. (PS I might just pop this comment under the other copy as well, if you don’t mind. Thanks)